Yesterday there were several skype chats from Firriver addressing me, but hey I said I'm not working fridays until september so I decidedly ignored them for the whole weekend. Then a fresh message came and I kind of forgot about it, but she told me to take a look. We were almost leaving for the garden. It was from Nina
Nina, 09.56 Ender had a stroke
We're in hospitalme 09.56 when, how?
how is he?Nina, 09.58
About an hour and a half ago. Can't talk nor type.
Came down the stairs on his own
His pressure was 230/160me 10.00 someone called us from your skype an hour ago, but we heard only kids in distance
she says he may recover when they take his pressure offNina, 10.04 I called while we were waiting for emergency
Now I'm with the babies in the hospital in front of ER. Raja and Violet are at home with Cheryl.me 10.05 Was just asking myself how did you distribute the children
Nina, 10.06 Uncle is on way here
me 10.09 We almost got ourselves going to the garden but now we'll wait.
At least I mowed around the house.Nina, 10.10 Do you have any wisdom to present to me?
me 10.11 she is thinking...
did you hear anything from the doctors or still nobody came out?Nina, 10.13
Those from the vehicle told me they were leaving
From these local ones still nothing.me 10.14 ...still thinking...
did he get anything to lower his pressureNina, 10.16 Don't know
I think they gave him nothing in the van.
He had sent me a message from his bed that he feels strange and is confused. Did not take meds today. Later he sent two more messages which were without meaning. And then I went to him to see how he was. Cold fingers, shaking, can't speak.
He sat by the computer and tried to type but couldn't type it out. Nor remember the words.me 10.20 But he understood what you said?
says that dad too once had so high a pressure and similar symptoms, emergency came, took down his pressure and he returned to normalNina, 10.22 He understood.
Drank water on his own.
Those in the van told me his right side is weak-me 10.25 that's not immobile yet... maybe it isn't a stroke. nothing, wait to hear what it is. how are the babies?
Nina, 10.27 Now they came to give me to sign to them that they are allowed to do tests including CT scan.
Babies are fine.me10.31 in adr njuz, I fixed both mowers.
On the quasi german the tongue on the switch lever was somewhat narrow so could slip: pulled on a rubber band to make it thicker and now it works. At least the switch works, the motor kind of kaputt.
On the slovenian one the cable kept falling out, so I tightened it with a rubber band, starts, goes.Nina, 10.41 Now you can mow at ease.
How is Silvijame 10.45 was in surgery yesterday. when we called uncle around seven the surgery was still in duration
didn't report anything since it lasted until ten evening
I hope the surgery went well.
we should have dropped by tonight when returning from garden
to leave to him the excess saplings of tomatoesNina, 11.15 Now I've been to Ender's. They are lowering his pressure. His pulse is around 140. He can't speak.
I left the babies to some girl and her mom to hold them.me 11.16 His uncle is still not there?
Nina, 11.17 No, but he goes first home from work, to pick wife, then come here. May be few hours.
me 11.18 nothing left to do but wait
Nina, 11.22 yes
me 11.25 (seeing pics of the girl and her mom holding the twins) they sleep nicely
good that there's someone to helpNina, 11.36 Random passers by.
Nina, 12.15 We still wait. They put Ender a catheter.
me 12.15 which catheter, to swallow?
Nina, 12.45 For peeing
They are looking for a place at ICU to take him inNina, 13.01 CVD bleeding
3000p per day for hospital stay
20000-30000p per day for medication
+ doctor feesme 13.02 we'll pass to you
on paypal I still have around 1000, for further I'd need that swift/iban codes thingyNina, 13.25 We'll see how long he stays. Just went to see him. They did the CT. He's on oxygen. Still in ER.
Out of the blue like that. He was completely normal and relaxed this morning.
Says nothing hurts. He's just so dizzy.
Now they told me he breathes with difficulty and they will put tubes into his lungs.me 13.36 holding our thumbs
Nina, 14.48 His uncle came with famly, so he translated. Says Ender has water in his lungs which they are pumping out now. They'll put him on ventilator. They first want to stabilize him before taking him to ICU. And it's not a brain hemorrhage, it's a clotted artery.
me 14.55 she explained stuff to me...
Nina, 15.06 His heart stopped beating :(
me 15.06 did it not
Nina, 15.12 :(
me 15.12 ?
Nina, 15.13 They didn't succeed reviving him
They tried epinefrinme 15.15 wha... so at once
Nina, 15.15 at once
;(15.17 I have no text... what to say
Nina, 15.32 Died...
me 15.33 so sorry
, still can't believeNina, 15.34 Me neither.
He was well this morning.me 15.34 how are you
Nina, 15.37 Lost
Can you come get me?
They won't let me into airplne with 4 kidsNina 15.39 I'll try on monday to see about the visa or wait for you in istanbul
Nina, 15.40 Ok
:(me 15.47 should we send Lena to you? she'd be of more use, she's physically in full condition and her paperwork is neater than our two's. I'll report into our platoon chat...
A couple of minutes later, in the family chat, nicknamed „our platoon meeting“:
me 15.52 Ender died
Go, 15.53 wtf
me 15.54 Woke up normal, then complained some, then couldn't type nor speak. Ambulance, hospital, reanimation, didn't work.
Go, 15.55 woe god I'm so sorry...
how's Nina?me 15:56 says she's lost... I gues she's still in the hospital with the babies
Go 15:57 and Silvija?
me 15.57 had surgery last night, when we called Arpi it was still going on
Lena, 15.59 I'm here
on the phone
what happened?me 15.59 Ender died
She says they probly wouldn't let her on the plane alone with four kids. We thought we would wait for her in Istembul or maybe even Manilla. Need no visa if you're not leaving the airport. And then it came to our minds it would be better if you went, you're in better shape with both body and paperwork.Lena 16:04 okay
Go, 16.04 Can we help somehow? If she needs money or anything
me 16.05 Someone should be in Manilla this week, or at least at the airport
Go, 16.06 she travels on 6th?
Lena, 16.06 6th of may
me 16.07 Nina has the tickets for 6th arrives on 7th.
Let's wait a bit while Nina catches a bit of breath... at the moment I don't even know where she is, still at the hospital or en route back to apartmentGo, 16.11 Anyone there to take care of her and the kids? Ender wider family I hope are at hand
Nina, 16.12 Slow down... The paperwork will strangle me here.
If birth certificates took two months, who knows how long will this take.
Ender's parents arrive tomorrow.me 16.13 well pass that part to them
Nina 16.13 Fayes said she'll come with us to Serbia
me 16.14 Well good
Nina 16.14 don't know what to do
me 16.15 go home
is Sharleen notified?Nina 16.16 yes I guess. Lito brought them food before coming here.
Go 16.17 and how are the kids
Nina 16.17 the babies are asleep, haven't heard from Raja or Violet few hours
they were okay when they got the food.Go 16.19 and Sharleen is also on Philippines?
Nina 16.19 ;(
no, this Sharleen is the maidGo 16.19 aha
Nina 16.22 and we should report to the embassy
me 16.24 won't the hospital do that by themselves?
Nina 16.24 We'll see how that goes
Perhaps the hospital will handle that.me 16.25 perhaps his father will arrange transportation to Oceana for the funeral.
Nina 16.25 we'll cremate him here
I think it was his wish.Lena, 16.27 Nina, I'm so sorry :(
Go, 14.42 we too :(
me 17.07 Silvija is staying 24h in intensive, just to make sure everything is ok
Nina, 18.37 Raja is taking it really hard :(
me 18.38 we thought he'd be the one to take it harder
Nina 18.38, we're home now. Violet understands nothing
me 18.38 We imagined it would be so. Though, once she does
Nina, 18.39 Yes :(
Raja found a sad song to listen tome 18:40 ah well it is some way to express himself. Got anyone else around?
Nina 18.41 Sharleen is here with us
me 18.41 when is Fayes coming?
Nina 18.43 tomorrow afternoon I guess
me 18.43 at least she can help a bit.
Nina 18.48, Lito says we should return to the condo in the Victoria tower
To be closer to the family.me 18.50 now for just these seven-eight days... as you will
Nina 19.19 need to pack everything
me 19.20 Yes, twice.
Go sleepNina 23:51 last night Raja said that he hopes Ender becomes a zombie
me 23.52 kids' imagination
Nina 23.53 Sharleen says that Violet said around 6 last night 'tata died'
me 23.54 children feel what's going on around them
Nina 23.55 that was before he really was dead
Go 23.55 Stanley says he yesterday had a premonition of incoming change and that we'll go to Serbie perhaps earlier
me 23.56 we're here and who come is well come
Nina 23.58 while I was pregnant and puked like insane, Violet once came up, rubbed my belly and said 'baby died'.... perhaps there were three?
me 23.58 hardly n
such is the telepathy between mothers and childrenme 00:00 I remember as well some things I still can't explain to myself
Go 0.00 I know whan granny died, I was sitting on the deck and had this strong thought, but dis-thought it, and then Lena called right after that to tell
Nina 00.06 I don't have that sensitivity. I get surprised by everything.
me 00.08 Nina, did you sleep any?
Nina 00.09 I did
From 2 to 5me 00.10 rain started here
we... drink. spill a bit on the floor from the first shot, as is the custom here
I'm rolling the photsGo, 00.13 we have nothing alcoholic so we spilled some artichoke on the floor
Nina, 00.14 we spilled half-digested milk on the floor...
me 00.15 we all do as we are able, what one has
Nina, any of that apricot left? A swig would come well to you.Nina 00.20 nope, I gave the whole bottle
Nina 00.27 Sharleen made me coffee
me 00.28 will come well to you
what you have in plan?Nina 00.29 I'm waiting to hear what the family say what's next. they're supposed to come here today.
Fayes arrives on tuesday
Sharleen (sister) arrives todayme 00.31 we're all surprised, and so I guess is the family
Arpi cursed when he heard the newsNina 00.33 I don't know what to do. I'll see how the paperwork goes, we can probably delay the tickets as this is a death causing it
I'd rather not delayme 00.34 I hope this goes faster than the birth certificates
Later we heard how Raja explained this to himself: „Tata died, didn't pass the level, didn't beat the boss. Game over.“.